How do you respond to a rude person?
Avoid immediate reaction. When someone makes fun of you, deal with the situation by not responding right away. Your quick reaction or anger will reinforce his bad behavior, and will give him exactly what he wants, which is a "reaction from you."[1] . It's also not a good idea to act angry or have negative feelings. You can do or say anything you might regret later, or you can destroy yourself from too much stress. Breathe deeply for a minute to keep yourself calm. Count slowly from 1 to 5 until you are absolutely sure that you are calm.
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Do not retaliate. You may want to meet the hurt like her, but doing so can make you just as petty as the person who insulted you and can increase stress and won't actually solve the problem.
Just like the instant reaction, revenge will give him what he wants.
Don't respond to rude comments and online posts with abusive responses, even if you feel like doing so.
Avoid gossiping about the person later. You may feel good right now, but gossip does nothing to solve the problem.
3 Ignore the abuse. Sometimes silence is the best weapon.[5] Ignoring people who make fun of you takes away the pleasure of getting a response from you. Silence saves you time and energy and prevents you from wasting them on someone who doesn't deserve it. In addition, his bad behavior will be very evident in front of your good behavior. He acted as if he hadn't said anything. Keep doing what you're doing without giving him any attention. Unless the person is a complete idiot, they will leave you alone after you ignore them.
4 Tell the person to stop. This is an obvious way to tell the person that you want them to stop insulting you. If ignoring the person isn't paying off, or if the situation is seriously distressing or distressing, telling the person to stop working on the problem may help. Make sure you are calm. Look him in the eye and make sure your tone of voice is clear, stern, and completely confident. For example: If a colleague insults you, take a deep breath and calmly say: "Stop insulting me." You can say to your co-worker, "I don't like or appreciate the way you talk to me and I want you to stop insulting me." If a friend didn't mean to be really mean, you could say, "I know you didn't mean it, but what you said hurt my feelings. Please don't insult me like that again."
Method 2 of 3: Strategy development
1 Understand why this person is behaving this way. People who insult others act this way for a number of reasons; The insult may not always be intended.[6] Understanding the person's motives behind their behavior can help you determine how to deal with them. Some people do this because they are trying to impress or get someone's attention,[7] such as a co-worker who criticizes your work to a responsible supervisor. Some people act like this because they feel insecure or jealous and try to feel better about themselves by putting you down.[8] Some people don't realize that they are behaving in this abusive way and that they don't communicate well with others. An example of this is Grandma who says, "This shirt is beautiful and hides your fat belly." Sometimes people don't really try to hurt your feelings or be mean.They may think it's just harmless banter, like your friend calling you "short."
2 Put an end. Some comments are annoying and can be ignored, while others are really mean and hurtful and should be dealt with.[10] Setting boundaries will help you in how you handle the situation. For example: When your brother makes fun of you it may not be annoying because you know he doesn't mean it and he's not trying to hurt your feelings. You may not even want to comment on what he said unless it gets out of hand. However, when your co-worker makes rude remarks all the time, you'll need to talk about it. If the insult is racist or repeated, the person has crossed the line and needs to report it.
3 Talk to your co-workers. People who insult you when they don't know you well often do it for a bad reason (or just to annoy you). Don't be dramatic, but tell them you're not okay. Have a private conversation so that you are not vulnerable to being watched by other people and to maintain respect for both of you۔ I appreciate the constructive responses, not the offensive insults. Please don't do that again." If he starts silencing you while you're trying to talk about his behavior, end the conversation. If the person's behavior continues or becomes worse, you will need to report them.
4 Be assertive with friends and relatives. Even though it might start with just a harmless comment, sometimes some people can go so far that you need to tell them to stop. Don't laugh or respond insultingly during your request, as the person will not take you seriously and will continue to make fun of you. Be assertive and use a calm, clear voice to tell him to stop. For example: Don't laugh while telling your sister to stop making fun of you because it's not a good way. "Okay. That's it, I know you think it's funny, but you're really bothering me, so I'm telling you to stop." If she doesn't stop right away, tell her, "You were serious when I told you to stop," then let her go. She will often come after you to apologize. Sometimes those close to us don't even know when we're serious۔
5 Be respectful with superiors. Sometimes, parents, teachers, or administrators make fun of us and insult us without even realizing it. Let these people know that their sarcasm bothers you and that you want them to stop. This will make them aware of what they are doing and how you feel about what they say. It is also an important step in dealing with the situation in the long term. [11] Check with the human resources department of your business and see what they suggest for how to handle bosses' insults. Talk to your manager in private if you are comfortable doing so. This will make the conversation less awkward and awkward for both of you. Try saying, "It really bothers me that you call my work silly" or "I know I don't always finish everything but don't accuse me of being lazy again because it hurts my feelings."Tell an adult you trust or the Human Resources department if you are not comfortable talking to them in private or if you feel they are intentionally insulting you.
Method 3 of 3:
take care of yourself
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Don't take things too seriously. The words of the person who is abusing you are a reflection of their personality, not yours. If the person who abuses you is happy in her life, she will not spend much time insulting those around her. She's also more likely to do this with other people and not just with you. If you allow her insults to seep into you, you will simply win. Don't allow what she says to lower your self-esteem or make you feel bad about yourself.[12]
Remind yourself of all your wonderful qualities by making a list of all your positive qualities.
Write down what she said about you. For every insult I give you, write down three things that prove you're wrong.
Make a list of all the nice things people say about you.
2 Follow stress management strategies. It's stressful for someone to keep insulting you and making fun of you. Learn how to follow some stress reduction techniques to help you deal with the person who constantly insults you and the stress they cause. Practice deep breathing and meditation to stay calm when the person is around you. Practice mindful meditation because it will help you reduce your stress and control yourself when someone is bothering you. Try doing a physical activity such as jogging or going swimming to de-stress.
3 Ask for support. If someone insults you all the time or is very mean, you should tell someone you trust and ask for help. Tell someone if someone has used their power to abuse you, such as a teacher, parent, or supervisor. Turning to support will help you in many ways. The support person can stand with you when something happens or even report what is going on. [13] Tell someone you trust what's going on. Give him as much detail as possible so he can understand the situation. Ask him to help you deal with the person who insults you. It can be as simple as asking a friend to be with you when you tell the person who is abusing you to stop their actions. It could be as much as reporting the person insulting you to the authorities.
4 Go out with positive people. Spending time with well-behaved people is a great way to deal with the stress of an abuser, and helps you take care of yourself in general. Hanging out with positive people can reduce stress and take your mind off the person who insults you and what makes you feel.Try to socialize and talk to people who support you constantly. Don't talk about the person insulting you, but do something fun.
